Poly Meetup – What to expect
If you’ve never been to one of our events before and would like to know what to expect, here’s a quick rundown of how Poly Meetups usually go.
We hold Poly Meetups at a variety of different cafes and restaurants around the city. We try to choose locations that have good seating for groups, are easily accessible by public transportation, quiet enough to socialize and can be enjoyed for under $10. The location of the next Meetup will be posted on the event listing close to the event date.
The organizers usually show up right at or just before the scheduled meet up time. We don’t usually make a reservation for the group, since the number of people who arrive varies a lot, so we’ll claim a table in a space where we can easily pull up additional seating. You can spot our table by looking for the parrot plush or figurine (most of the time – we’ll be honest, we forget it some times.)
If you’re concerned about not being able to spot the group let us know. We can arrange a one-on-one meet up with an organizer before hand or exchange photos or more details to help with recognition.
Arriving on time is greatly appreciated but people tend to trickle in during the first hour of the meet up. When you arrive, pull up a seat any place there’s room and we’ll do a round of introductions. We try to do a new round of introductions every time there are more arrivals.
At Meetups we all tend to sit at one big table. Everyone is able to chat with everyone else, and there’s no clustering of cliques or worries about interjecting into a social group like there might be at a bigger event.
Meetups are primarily an opportunity for poly people to socialize with other poly people, in an environment where referring to your wife and your boyfriend in the same conversation won’t require any lengthy explanations or inspire shocked reactions.
Conversations tend to be about topics that aren’t poly-specific. TV, movies, pets, food, politics, local events, school, travel, work, world events, fandom, music, computers, shopping… you name it, we’ve probably talked about it. Sometimes we even talk about polyamory, too! You’re welcome to bring up any topics of interest for you.
Most people stay in their seats for the duration of the meetup, but anyone is welcome to move around the table to interact with different people. If there’s a large group the organizers may move around to make sure that we’ve said hello to everyone.
Meetups typically wrap up after about two hours, though sometimes run closer to three. Since they’re always held in public spaces, anyone is welcome to stay and hang out longer if they wish.
Poly Meetups vary a lot in size, from four to twelve people depending on the weather and time of year. We average roughly equal numbers of men and women as well as a few people of other genders. Ages range from 19 to 50s, with mid-twenties to mid-thirties being strongly represented. Meetups are very well attended by LGBTQ* folks. The majority of participants are white, though there are a handful of people of colour who regularly attend. Most people who participate are currently in or actively seeking polyamorous relationships.
Everyone is welcome.
If you have any questions about what to expect at our events, please don’t hesitate to ask! We’ll be happy to answer any questions you might have. If you’re uncertain about attending your first event alone you’re welcome to bring a friend or request an one-on-one intro to one of the organizers before hand.